Saturday, April 5, 2008

My boys

I am the proud mother of three boys. My oldest Matt, is 24. Needless to say, he has his own life now, he is... a man. He has matured a lot in the last couple of years and has become quite the father figure for my youngest son, Taylor who is 17. Matt has kept Taylor "on his toes" so to speak in the last several months.
My middle son, Josh, is about to turn 18 on April 20th. He will graduate from Rossview High School in May.
I guess I am trying to write about one thing with raising teenaged boys. There has been many a day I have felt like I was going to absolutely lose it! I have had days when I have felt I had lost control of my family. I felt no love or respect from the boys. I would find myself searching online for answers of why they act the way they do and why they do not respect me. I found all kinds of answers from different authors.
After my research and lots of prayer, I took a statement one of the author's had said and lived by it.
I learned that my boys are human, they are growing up, and they are trying to become young men and figuring out their place in life. That is what is causing the moodiness, not me, but them trying to become young men. So, I told myself to just love them as I always have and consider their personalities and respect their time they need. Now I understand why mother's want their children to stay little.
Just about the time I get concerned about my boys' love for me, I either get a phone call, more than likely a text message, or a walk in the door. Then I feel that overwhelming love for me.
Matt calls me every afternoon on his way home from work. He works in Nashville and lives here in Clarksville. He never hangs up until he tells me he loves me. He will often come by for supper.
Josh is the mellow, sensitive one. He will text me during the day to tell me his schedule and always ends the text with "I love you mommy." Still calls me mommy...
But the one that really touches me is when Taylor (my baby) will out of the blue text me with a Bible verse.
Taylor recently has gone through a situation with a good friend. He thought this person was his best friend but had recently done something that dissapointed Taylor. I will have to write about what happened in another blog. This is not the first time this friend has made Taylor think twice about hanging out with this boy.
On Thursday, Taylor texted me the following verse:
"He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm." Proverbs 13:20.
This touched my heart beyond measure. To ever doubt that I have never made an impact on my boys just leaves my mind. And what is so awesome, is that Taylor took this verse and applied it to his situation with his friend and he is going to use it to guide him through his life. How good and awesome is our God!!! If I do nothing else on this earth, just let me be a witness for my children to teach them to love God above all else. As long as they know without Him they are nothing, that everything will fall into place in their lives, I feel I have done my job as a mother. " and do not forsake your mother's teaching. They will be a garland to grace your head and a chain to adorn your neck." Proverbs 1: 8

1 comment:

Montee said...

Brett is really,really hormonal right now. He can drive me nuts some days. It's like male PMS. I think he is about to go through "The Change." I can say that he does not cause me any other trouble except his moodiness. Thank the good Lord that is all I have to put up with and he is not getting involved in what a lot of teenagers are doing. It is unbelievable and shocking.